Love
Love, what a powerful word. We love our job, we love our cat, and we love our partner. Same word—love—but with very different intentions. What does love do for us? It can break our heart, it can elevate us to higher levels of emotion and it can clear the path to true happiness.
Yet how often do we confuse love with satisfying our negativity? I once heard someone say they would love to punch a guy in the face. This certainly is not love. So how do we use love as a way to step away from negativity to a place that helps us shape our lives and the world we want to be a part of? Where will this love lead us?
To understand love on a deeper level, a conversation with my Inner Voice may be helpful. My questions will be in italics for clarity.
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When we think of love we naturally
think of romantic love, yet there is more to love than just that.
Oftentimes the love people feel
towards others is a very strong feeling of attraction. They are attracted to
the other, and they receive comfort from this attraction. This sense of
attraction also builds their self-worth. The issue is that if a person needs
someone’s attraction to build their sense of self-worth, they are not loving
themselves. When a person is truly loving themselves—this is not an ego driven
love—they will not need anything outside of themselves to build their own
self-worth, or self-esteem.
People often confuse love with attraction?
If a person has low self-esteem or
is unaware of their self-love, the affection of another person will fill a void
within them. This void is a lack of self-love. Attraction and affection can do
wonders to a person’s view of themselves, but it will not replace the honesty
of one’s own self-love.
How will we know the difference between true love and affection?
With true love—true self-love a
person knows who they are, and they know what is true and right for them. Their
self-worth and self-esteem are founded on self-love and not the need for
someone to boost their identity.
Affection from another person is a
wonderful thing, but when it is used to fill an emotional void within oneself
it can then be emotionally harmful. True self-love is realizing the constant
flow of love within one’s being. This love is consistent, everlasting, and
never wavers, no matter what type of day a person is having. The love found
within all people is unconditional and without exceptions.
Affection is inconsistent,
conditional, and in many cases unreliable. The flow of affection can vary
depending on the emotional state of the person showing their affection.
How do we discover our self-love, if we have not experienced it in the past?
There are many blocks that prevent
a person from experiencing this powerful flow of love. Negative self-talk is
one source of mental chatter that creates self-doubt, and low self-esteem. By
silencing negative self-talk a person will begin to hear the voice of their
self-love. Self-doubt is another block that hinders a person from experiencing
their self-love. Negative self-talk and self-doubt feed off of each other and
with time can gain enough strength to limit one’s ability to feel true
self-love.
How will life change when we begin to experience our self-love?
There will be no need to ask others
to continue to support you emotionally as a way of maintaining your self-worth.
Your value to yourself and your happiness
will be based on the level of love you have for yourself. When you expect
others to maintain your positive view of yourself, and they fail, you may blame
them for your unhappiness. Although you must realize, your true happiness is
your responsibility.
How will our self-love impact the affection we receive from others?
The affection of others will be felt as a gift, not a need. When you receive love or affection as a gift, it is given without expectation, or condition. This is how true authentic love and affection benefits both people in the relationship.
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The true love we are seeking from
others will only be found within ourselves. Let me know what you think. Leave a
question or comment below, I’m always open to exploring the conversation
further.
I’m excited to announce the release of my book, “Your Inner Guidance, The Path to Discovering Your True Happiness.” Available through Amazon.com as an eBook and paperback. Here is a link to purchase a copy,
Each week I send a conversation with my Inner Voice to those who have subscribed to my weekly. This week we discuss the comfort of negativity. Here is an excerpt.
Why are we so comfortable in our emotional discomfort?
Often the discomfort will give
people a sense of purpose, an identity. Even if this purpose is negative they
can relate to it. They understand it, it does not challenge them, and many
times those who surround them may be experiencing the same negativity. This
will add strength and longevity to the reasons for their discomfort.
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I’m grateful to write a monthly column for two online magazines. This month, my article in New Spirit Journal is titled, “Getting Out of Our Own Way.”
http://www.newspiritjournalonline.com/getting-out-of-our-own-way/
While
in Conscious Shift Magazine you will find my article titled, “Empowering
Others.”
https://consciousshiftcommunity.com/empowering-others/
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into these great resources for wisdom, spirituality, and enlightenment.
I want to thank you for being a part of this wonderful journey called life. I appreciate your support.
Peace and good health
Copyright
Paul Hudon 2021
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